MY SCALP!!!! ARRRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!

Ok, so my BELOVED ghee is causing my scalp to flake. I think it is the conditioner ingredients that are the culprit. By this, I mean the Behentrimonium methosulfate and the cetyl alcohol. Those products work wonderfully in my hair as a detangler, but they should not be left in. Having said that, I think my alternative would be a "hair grease" type of product. I ordered some of "Sophia's Old-fashioned hair grease". It was a toss up between that and La'Vida Given by Nature's ginger and berries. There was a couple of reasons why I did not order that product. 1) PRICE. 2) Orange oil. I avoid that stuff like the PLAGUE!!! I hope I like this stuff because right now I am using B&B's "extra lite" hair grease. I like it okay, but I DO NOT Like using minera oil or petrolem based products on my skin. I hope it doesn't take very long to ship. Some online stores take a month! Other than the latest scalp issu, my hair is thriving, but greas DOES give it more shrinkage. Ahhh wellll.....